Apr 16, 2018
In continuation of the weekly lessons I am sharing from my Self Love Affair Process, this week is about getting comfortable with the idea of loving yourself.
So far, you’ve been digging through the layers covering up your fabulous true self. So, do you Dare to love your Mighty self?
Or are you still wincing at the thought?
Loving yourself is about getting to know your Spirit – the real you – and it’s also about loving your inner child.
What inner child?!?
She is the energy of your childhood emotions. Ever noticed yourself throwing a tantrum, feeling needy or acting out for attention? That’s her!
Your inner child holds onto the negative beliefs that were formed as an infant, when you felt somehow that love is conditional. That belief gave rise to two fears:
I am not enough
I am too much
Which boil down to a basic fear:
I am not loveable
As an adult, my inner child is still sometimes desperate for love and approval from others. By paying her attention, I can heal old wounds and make her feel safe enough to express her joy and playfulness.
When we love and honour the child within us, our relationships are no longer about fulfilling that neediness. We stop looking for a parental figure to nurture us because we know how to nurture ourselves.
Ready to give it a go?
Your daily practice
As you go about your day today, consider that you’re an adult nurturing a child. Let her know that you will spend time listening to her and getting to know her. Set an alarm on your phone every couple of hours to check in with her.
When she is worried or frightened, comfort her. When she is raging or sad, write out these feelings. Finish with, “I have heard you and I understand. From now on I promise to listen to you. I love you and you are safe.”
As your relationship with that voice develops, she’ll start to feel safe and chilled out. Your role then is to encourage her and give her permission to laugh and skip and dance and tell silly jokes!
Founder of The School of Self Love
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